Is Loving Yourself Selfish?

“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”
Psalm 139:14 NIV

We are all born beautiful little babies who naturally love themselves and others. Somewhere along the way we lose this self-love and become critical of ourselves and others. We learn to deny our true passions and feelings in order to fit in, to be like everyone else. We become self-conscious and try to hide who we truly are.

Watch how one teacher helps his students to love themselves and what happens when they do. A Radical New Teaching Method – Compliments and high fives go a long way in the classroom.

A Radical New Teaching Method

Compliments and high fives go a long way in classrooms.

Posted by AJ+ on Thursday, November 19, 2015

By starting the day with just ten minutes of complimenting his students and giving them high fives, he got amazing results: “After a few weeks of this practice, my students started complimenting one another consistently. They praise each other for accomplishments as if it was their own. They never insult one another and actively work towards helping each other.”

“Praising each other for accomplishments as if it was their own.” Learning to value themselves taught them to also value others; instead of being jealous of someone else having success, they felt good about it.

Why don’t all children get raised this way, at home and in school? Why not teach all children to love themselves, to value their uniqueness and value the uniqueness of others? Imagine how much better your life would be if you and the other people you grew up with had learned to love themselves and others.

It is insecurity and fear that drive people to put others down in order to build themselves up. When you value yourself for the beautiful unique person that you are, you do not need to put someone else down to make yourself feel good.

“Self-care is never a selfish act – it is simply good stewardship of the only gift I have, the gift I was put on earth to offer others. Anytime we can listen to true self and give the care it requires, we do it not only for ourselves, but for the many others whose lives we touch.”
― Parker J. Palmer

What is self-care?

“Self-care is about seeking and nurturing internal validation. It is finding the sweet child within and giving him or her soothing comfort, reassurance, and warm, loving thoughts and wishes. It is about taking care of the internal emotional side of our being and learning self-compassion.”
Karyl McBride Ph.D. Psychology Today, Is Self-Care Selfish?

Loving yourself is not selfish, it is a true expression of who you are, who you were born to be. It is you being authentic and real, recognizing how special you are and not trying to be like someone else. It also means that you see others for the wonderful unique person that they are.

Look for the good in yourself and others. Compliment often. Nurture the beautiful child within. Let’s be the example that we want our children to follow. Love yourself. Love others.

If you have self-esteem issues and fears that are keeping you from fully embracing and accepting who you are, know that it is never too late to make the changes you want in your life. You can love yourself no matter what other people say, no matter what you’ve been through, no matter your past, or your circumstances. You can take control of your life.

In my book, Love Yourself Being You: A Way to Live Your Best Life (Quiet Your Mind, Eliminate Stress, Find Inner Peace) I share ideas, tools and techniques to help you connect with the beautiful creation that you are; the wonderful, capable person that exists within you and always has. Learn to love yourself, to reduce stress and anxiety, and to overcome your daily struggles. Conquer your fears and escape the downward spiral of negative thinking and emotions.

You have the power to love yourself exactly as you are. You have the ability to have unshakable confidence. You are powerful. You are amazing!

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“Be still, and know that I am God!
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Are Affirmations Ruining Your Life?

“Every thought you think and every word you speak is an affirmation. All of our self-talk, our internal dialogue, is a stream of affirmations.”
Louise L. Hay, I Can Do It

Are affirmations ruining your life? Is your self-talk destroying your self-esteem?

You use affirmations every day without even realizing it. It is important to become aware of these affirmations so that you can choose the right ones for you. Is your internal dialogue setting you up for failure or success?

Affirmations like, I’m always broke, I never have enough money, or I’m not good enough, are very depressing and will not inspire you to do your best! You need to get rid of the negative energy in your mind.

Negative affirmations can block you from achieving success and can ruin your life. These affirmations do not empower you. Negative affirmations tear you down.

“Learn to think in positive affirmations. Affirmations can be any statement you make. Too often we think in negative affirmations. Negative affirmations only create more of what you say you don’t want.”
Louise L. Hay

Positive affirmations build you up, make you stronger, and create a powerful mindset that empowers and inspires you to greater heights.

Affirmations must be stated in the present tense, “I have…” “I am…”. You want to have the mindset you need for success now, not sometime in the future.

“I am successful. I am calm and relaxed. I am capable and get the results I want quickly and easily.” This kind of thinking and speaking opens your mind to amazing possibilities and will attract more of what you want in your life.

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To learn more about how to use affirmations, check out: I Can Do It – How to Use Affirmations to Change Your Life

I bought this book a number of years ago and it really helped me to see how the things I was saying to myself were causing a lot of fear and worry. Using positive affirmations helped me to stop creating excess fear and worry, and start creating more calm in my life.

I really loved the audio version of the book (included with the book). Listening to the affirmations over and over again, helped create a new habit for me. Instead of my old negative affirmations, I was starting to use new positive affirmations. I liked listening to the audio version while cooking dinner, doing laundry, or driving. Listening to it while going to sleep at night helped me to let go of stress, while being comforted by the affirmations.

“I let go of all fear and doubt, and life becomes simple and easy for me.”
Louise L. Hay

To learn more about Louise L. Hay, click here

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Beauty Within

Stop for a moment every day and seek to find something beautiful.
Remember to look inside yourself, beauty can always be found there.
Allow this beauty to fill your heart to overflowing with love, joy, and peace.
Feel the love radiating out from you, bringing a smile to your face.
You are wonderful! You are amazing! You are beautiful!

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Be Insanely Productive!

Insanely productive people, we’ve all seen them; they come out with a new book every month, they run programs, hold webinars, they post regularly on all the social media sites, they are unstoppable! How do they do it?

Mindset. They have the right mindset. They don’t let limiting beliefs stop them. They work smarter not harder. They focus, use their energy wisely, are disciplined and organized.

How can you get the right mindset?

You can get the right mindset by reprogramming your mind, changing the negative things that you say to yourself, getting rid of limiting beliefs and other self-sabotaging behavior that goes on in the background, most of which you are not even aware of. Using hypnosis and NLP can help to replace beliefs that are not serving you with new empowering beliefs.

After listening to the hypnosis session, Be Insanely Productive, I found myself focusing on the important things and making improvements in my productivity.

Listening to the session over and over increased the level of productivity I experienced each day. Writing positive statements from the session on a whiteboard where I would read them often helped to increase my level of productivity even more. Becoming really really productive was becoming my new normal, my new habit.

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I chose these positive statements from Be Insanely Productive to read daily on my whiteboard:

  • I’m stepping up
  • I’m setting a new standard
  • I make it happen!
  • I’m strong, confident, and productive.
  • I have the power to change!
  • It is easy to let go and be really, really productive!

Click on the video below to listen to Be Insanely Productive by Hypnosis Live

After listening a couple of times, you could skip the introduction and begin the session at 13:07.

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How to Experience Joy When Life Sucks!

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“Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.”

Philippians 4:4-9 (NIV)

I love this scripture. Rejoice! Who doesn’t want to rejoice, to celebrate, to show great joy, to feel good?

It is easy to rejoice when things are going well, but when troubled times come, when it feels like your life is falling apart, rejoicing is not the ‘normal’ reaction.

In this verse it says to rejoice in the Lord always. Always? What does that even mean? Are you supposed to go around being joyful all the time even when bad things happen in life?

This verse is showing a way to not only get through difficult times, but to experience peace during the difficult times. How?

Take your focus away from your problems and focus on something that is beautiful and wonderful; focus on God and His love for you. Focus on His promise of peace. Rejoice in the Lord. By putting your attention on God instead of the burdens that are too big to bear, you are focusing on what is right, pure, lovely, admirable, and definitely praiseworthy. You are focusing on hope, on what is possible—with God ALL things are possible.

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” Instead of being anxious and suffering through another day, know that you don’t have to handle it all on your own; you are not alone.

Pray. Have a conversation with God. Tell God your worries, your fears, your hopes, your dreams, and how you feel. He already knows everything about you, but by having a conversation with God, you open yourself up to hear from Him.

Present your requests to God. Seek His guidance in all things and trust that God will lead you, that He will guide you in the best way to go. Trust that God has got it handled.

“Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice.” Be willing to listen for answers to your prayers. Be open to what God may want to do through you to help your situation.

“Let your gentleness be evident to all.” Imagine yourself being gentle. Does this not evoke a feeling of calm, of peace?

By focusing on God instead of your problems, you will receive peace beyond all understanding. You will be able to rejoice in His love, knowing that He loves you so much and that you are not alone.

God is almighty, all-powerful, and He loves you! Who better to have on your team in times of trouble? Knowing that you have given it all to God, that He has promised you peace, you can go forth filled with hope that is greater than any fear or doubt.


Motive – Leonardo da Vinci

I know what I need to do to accomplish my goals, but I don’t always take the action I need to take. I found a solution in this quote:

“Every action needs to be prompted by a motive.”
~ Leonardo da Vinci ~

Action needs to be prompted by a motive!

What is the first thing detectives ask when looking for a suspect? Who had motive? Motive always precedes the action!

It is easy to fall into the trap of procrastination and to see yourself as lazy, not good enough, not capable enough, not smart enough, but none of these things are true and putting yourself down will never motivate you to great heights. Always look for the best in yourself and others—you will find it!

So instead of beating myself up, feeling like my goals were out of reach or I was not equipped to accomplish them, I chose to be loving and compassionate with myself and realize that it was not laziness, but lack of motive that had been keeping me from taking action.

The truth is simple—with the right motive, you will be inspired to take action. With the right motive you will take action. By taking action, you can create the life you desire. You are smart enough. You are capable. You are amazing!

If it is difficult for you to believe in yourself, if you would like to discover what inspires you and free yourself from limitations, you may find my book helpful: Love Yourself Being You: A Way to Live Your Best Life (Quiet Your Mind, Eliminate Stress, Find Inner Peace)

What motive will inspire you to take action today? Please share in the comments below.

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Oprah Winfrey Quote

“As you become more clear about who you really are, you’ll be better able to decide what is best for you—the first time around.”
Oprah Winfrey

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Quote From: Love Yourself Being You: A Way to Live Your Best Life (Quiet Your Mind, Eliminate Stress, Find Inner Peace) To read more about Love Yourself Being You: A Way to Live Your Best Life, click here.


Serene Peaceful Yet Kind of Erie!

Imagine a serene peaceful yet kind of erie setting for writing a novel. How would you use this setting if you were the author?

Feel free to share your ideas in the comments.

For me, I would go with mystery, romance, and intrigue. I would have a woman come here to enjoy the serenity and solitude, to discover a new life, a new beginning. Then the illusion of safety is shattered when the darkness of her past finds her—alone and secluded.


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