--- title: "3 Simple Steps to Better Feeling Thoughts" id: "914" type: "post" slug: "3-simple-steps-to-better-feeling-thoughts" published_at: "2014-01-08T20:34:49+00:00" modified_at: "2025-10-08T04:02:02+00:00" url: "https://lanahallen.com/e/3-simple-steps-to-better-feeling-thoughts/" markdown_url: "https://lanahallen.com/e/3-simple-steps-to-better-feeling-thoughts.md" excerpt: "A New Day for Mindful Moments with God Enjoy the fresh start of a new day! Be thankful and choose to fill this day with hope and joy.…Read more ›" taxonomy_category: - "Blog" --- [Home](https://lanahallen.com/) ›[Blog](https://lanahallen.com/e/category/all-posts/) ›3 Simple Steps to Better Feeling Thoughts # 3 Simple Steps to Better Feeling Thoughts Posted on [January 8, 2014](https://lanahallen.com/e/3-simple-steps-to-better-feeling-thoughts/) by by [Lana H Allen](https://lanahallen.com/e/author/lanahallen/) Posted in [Blog](https://lanahallen.com/e/category/all-posts/) Worry, stress, and fear often dominate our thinking. These thoughts come up no matter how unwelcome they may be. No matter how hard we try to push these thoughts away, they insist on tormenting us. How do we get rid of these unwanted thoughts? How can we let go of this disturbing mind chatter? Here are three simple steps to start making changes and take control of your thinking: 1. Acknowledge that the thought you’re thinking is making you feel bad. 2. Choose to think a better feeling thought: an enjoyable memory, an activity that you are looking forward to, an outcome or result you would like to have happen, or any other thought that makes you feel good. 3. Implement the new feel good thought. Do not try to eliminate the bad feeling thought; this will make you focus on it even more. The key is to replace the old bad feeling thought with the new good feeling thought. Every time the bad feeling thought comes into your mind, acknowledge it and say, “I choose to think a better feeling thought now.” Now repeat the better feeling thought in your mind or out loud. Put your focus on this new thought; notice how this new thought makes you feel. Enjoy thinking this new positive thought. Be loving and patient with yourself; it takes time to make changes, but keep working on it. 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